The Orange County Register: Giant poodles save the day


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The canine versions of Jimmy Stewart and Rita Hayworth help a Santa Ana psychologist work with children.
LORI BASHEDA
The Orange County Register



There I sat on psychologist Amy Stark’s couch with her sidekick Jim sitting practically on top of me. I had only known Jim for a couple of minutes and already his face was so close to mine.

I could smell his breath as he stared hard into my eyes.

Longingly? Wistfully? Sadly? I couldn’t tell.

I wondered what he was thinking. That I was clearly in need of some counseling? Or was he just wondering if I had a can of Purina in my purse?

Jim is a giant poodle.

Standard poodle is the correct name. But Jim is 4-feet tall from his enormous toe pads to his curly head. That’s only a foot shorter than I am. So to me, he’s a giant poodle.

Rita is not as tall as Jim, and more high strung, but she is friendly.

Rita is also a giant poodle.

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It was Rita who greeted me when I walked into Stark’s waiting room the other day in Santa Ana.

On the wall hung framed head shots of Jim and Rita with the title: “Employees of the Month.”

And behind the counter, standing on her hind legs, peering out from behind that little window that doctors offices have, was a rather serious Rita, her front paws resting on the counter like she was about to collect a co-pay.

She was taller than me and her head was the size of a human’s. I laughed nervously, but she just stared at me, all business.

Jim and Rita followed me into Stark’s office, which is really too cold a word for what I found. It was more like someone’s cozy living room with sofas and lots of stuffed animals.

“I want this to be a calm place, because we have to talk about some hard stuff here,” Stark says.

A PhD clinical psychologist, Stark gives court-ordered therapy in family reunification and child custody cases. Most of her patients are kids; kids who have been through the wringer and have an easier time trusting giant poodles than humans.

In Stark’s office, the kids let Rita lick their ears and invite Jim to rest his head in their lap.

“Some of these kids come and lay on Jim if they’ve had a hard day,” she says.

Jim tends to go to whoever in the room is upset. If a different person becomes upset, he moves to that person. Basically, Stark says, “if Jim sleeps through a session, we know we’re doing better.”

When Stark’s young patients use puppets to role play, giving her a window into what might be going on in their lives, Rita and Jim are an attentive audience.

“My dogs love to watch puppet shows,” Stark says. “They cock their heads and get really involved. Sometimes they march behind the chair to see the kid and then go back and sit down and watch.”

By the end of a day, they’re exhausted.

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At Stark’s home, Jim and Rita unwind on leather recliners in the den. Stark had to teach them to stop reclining because she was afraid they might hurt themselves.

Jim likes to watch TV. “Oh, he loves the Westminster dog show,” she says. “Every year, he watches the whole thing.”

He also likes dramas. But sometimes they upset him. Once, Jim got so worked up over some actors fighting on TV that his baby sitter (Stark was having a garden tour that day) had to turn the station to the gardening channel.

“I gotta say, sometimes I think Jim is not even a dog. It’s like Jim’s a person and Rita is his dog. Like Goofy and Pluto.”

The dogs spend a few weekends a year with a trainer to brush up on their manners so they’re in control at the office. They also get groomed twice a month; the Park Avenue cut. And Stark brushes their teeth twice a week. To keep them healthy, she feeds them Himalayan berry juice, cranberry extract and vitamin supplements with their Purina.

Stark’s first dog was a Boston terrier she got as a child. His name was Princie. “He was a snarly little thing,” she says. And that might explain why she now gravitates to the large dog.

The first dog she bought as an adult was a black standard Poodle she named Greta Garbo. Stark had Greta trained as a therapy dog and together they would visit hospitals and senior homes.

When Greta died seven years ago, Stark drove to Northern California to look over two new litters of giant poodle pups and returned to her home in Floral Park, an English Tudor with English fairy gardens, with Jim and Rita.

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Stark initially gave Jim a different name: Spencer, after Spencer Tracy. But he wouldn’t answer to Spencer. So she switched it to Jimmy Stewart. “Plus he’s tall and lanky and very likable like Jimmy Stewart,” she says.

Rita is named after Rita Hayworth. Once while walking Rita in Laguna Beach, a woman overheard Stark call Rita’s name: “Rita Hayworth, come back here!” she shouted. The woman told Stark she had actually been an old friend of Rita Hayworth’s and that her old friend would have been pleased.

As soon as Stark finishes her book about ballroom dancing (she competes at the bronze level), she plans to write a book about Jim and Rita.

“When you think about it, they hear a lot of stuff,” she says.

The book will be stories about them, the kids they’ve helped and the letters and notes they’ve received, some of which are taped to the back of Stark’s office door. “Jim Rocks,” reads one tribute, in crayon.

It won’t be Stark’s first book. She had a book published in 1992 called “Because I said so.” It was about people taking their childhood dynamics into their work lives and the problems that causes. After the book came out, Oprah had Stark on her couch for a show called “Bosses wives who drive secretaries insane.”

Maybe Oprah can have Stark on again.

The show can be called “Giant poodles save the day.”

Contact the writer: dramystark.com714-932-1705 or lbasheda@ocregister.com

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